The Better Boundaries Blog
We’re taught at an early age to be responsible, to be kind to others and to avoid becoming selfish. Without these values, our survival as a species would be in question. So how do you know when you’ve crossed the line from caring to people-pleasing?
Let’s face it: being manipulated sucks. Possibly the only thing worse than being manipulated is having to admit our dirty little secret. When we realize we’ve been had, we feel stupid, weak and ashamed. And it doesn’t end there. If we keep falling for their tricks, manipulators leave us with a bad feeling about the world around us.
Being manipulated is no fun. So here are five questions to help you become more aware – and get you thinking about the right things before being manipulated again.
If you’ve been struggling to set good boundaries in 2016, they’re not going to suddenly set themselves in the new year. So before that new day dawns, let’s take a look at some of the challenges we can expect to face in 2017 – and how better boundaries can help us through them.
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the holidays? If you want to avoid repeating the same old dramas, anxieties, melt-downs, conflicts, disappointments and trashed finances, you’ll need to rethink your approach.
It seems that some people confuse authenticity with saying or doing whatever they want. This post discusses people pleasing & whether being authentic comes at a price.
Some people just don’t get it. You can tell them “no” a hundred times, but they keep right on going. How do you respond when your boundary is just being ignored?
With some people, our boundaries go understood. But not everyone shares our values. And not everyone consistently treats us with respect. In these situations, we need more than just words. Our boundaries need teeth.
Let’s face it: some people are just rude. And even people who aren’t usually that way may have their moments. So how do you handle them? What do you do when someone is more than just a little rude?
In a healthy relationship, you usually know when something’s wrong. And when you ask if there’s a problem, you get an honest answer. “I’m feeling hurt because you didn’t include me yesterday.” Or “It seems to me that I’m doing most of the work on this project, and that doesn’t feel good.” You talk things over.
Every day we make choices – choices that determine everything from how we spend our time to how we feel about ourselves. Do you often wonder what happened to your day – or your week? Do you look back and realize that you spent it doing what others wanted you to do?
Coming to the realization that you’re in a toxic relationship can be devastating. After all, you’ve poured your time, love, and energy into making this relationship work, to the point that you might be wondering what’s wrong with you. Why can’t you get it right?