The Better Boundaries Blog
People-Pleasing: Are you turning your back on yourself?
We’re taught at an early age to be responsible, to be kind to others and to avoid becoming selfish. Without these values, our survival as a species would be in question. So how do you know when you’ve crossed the line from caring to people-pleasing?
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21 Ways to Stop Being Manipulated
Let’s face it: being manipulated sucks. Possibly the only thing worse than being manipulated is having to admit our dirty little secret. When we realize we’ve been had, we feel stupid, weak and ashamed. And it doesn’t end there. If we keep falling for their tricks, manipulators leave us with a bad feeling about the world around us.
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5 Questions to Help You Stop Being Manipulated
Being manipulated is no fun. So here are five questions to help you become more aware – and get you thinking about the right things before being manipulated again.
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5 Challenges You May Face in 2017 & How Better Boundaries Will Help
If you’ve been struggling to set good boundaries in 2016, they’re not going to suddenly set themselves in the new year. So before that new day dawns, let’s take a look at some of the challenges we can expect to face in 2017 – and how better boundaries can help us through them.
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Overwhelmed by the Holidays?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the holidays? If you want to avoid repeating the same old dramas, anxieties, melt-downs, conflicts, disappointments and trashed finances, you’ll need to rethink your approach.
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Does Authenticity Come at a Price?
It seems that some people confuse authenticity with saying or doing whatever they want. This post discusses people pleasing & whether being authentic comes at a price.
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What to Do When Your Boundary Is Ignored
Some people just don’t get it. You can tell them “no” a hundred times, but they keep right on going. How do you respond when your boundary is just being ignored?
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Boundaries need consequences to matter
With some people, our boundaries go understood. But not everyone shares our values. And not everyone consistently treats us with respect. In these situations, we need more than just words. Our boundaries need teeth.
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3 Good Ways to Deal with Rude People
Let’s face it: some people are just rude. And even people who aren’t usually that way may have their moments. So how do you handle them? What do you do when someone is more than just a little rude?
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How can you make things right when you’ve done nothing wrong?
In a healthy relationship, you usually know when something’s wrong. And when you ask if there’s a problem, you get an honest answer. “I’m feeling hurt because you didn’t include me yesterday.” Or “It seems to me that I’m doing most of the work on this project, and that doesn’t feel good.” You talk things over.
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10 Signs You Might Be a Pushover
Every day we make choices – choices that determine everything from how we spend our time to how we feel about ourselves. Do you often wonder what happened to your day – or your week? Do you look back and realize that you spent it doing what others wanted you to do?
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12 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship … and You’re Not Crazy
Coming to the realization that you’re in a toxic relationship can be devastating. After all, you’ve poured your time, love, and energy into making this relationship work, to the point that you might be wondering what’s wrong with you. Why can’t you get it right?
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