This video is all about time and how it relates to good boundaries.

You don’t need me to tell you we live in a crazy, busy world. Whether you’re trying to meet another impossible deadline or just find some time to chill, chances are it’s harder than it was a few years ago. So when someone wants an answer right now, you probably don’t give it a second thought.

And that’s your first mistake.

One of the easiest ways to manipulate someone is to push for a quick answer – before the intended victim can think things through. A lot of unreasonable demands come with a loudly ticking clock. It’s there to drown out the voice in your head that’s whispering, “Wait a minute….”

That clock is saying you don’t have a minute.

But of course you do. You don’t have to rush into a decision just because someone wants you to. If the voice in your head – or the feeling in your gut – says, “Wait a minute,” you need to listen.

It’s a crazy world, with some crazy people in it. Some of them don’t like to plan for things. They just “go with the flow” – and get people like you to rescue them when things go pear-shaped. Others are hooked on drama, and no day would be complete without a crisis. And all of them want things they’re not entitled to. They know you’d see the truth if you had time to think about it – so they don’t give you time to think.

Don’t let anyone do that to you. When you make a decision too quickly, your emotions get the best of you. Your fears have free rein – which makes it easy to agree to something you’ll regret.

Sometimes we pressure ourselves to decide right away because we’re in a hurry. Or we’re afraid to admit that we need time to think; somehow it feels like a weakness. But it isn’t. And anyone who respects your needs will be OK with waiting. If they’re not – well, what does that say about them?

They say it takes money to make money. It also takes time to make time. Making a decision in seconds can cost you hours, days or even years. So when someone doesn’t have time to wait, remember that you don’t have time to rush.

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