This video is about the importance of doing what’s right for you – especially when someone’s trying to talk you out of it.
Thanks for joining me to talk about the importance of doing what’s right for you – especially when someone’s trying to talk you out of it.
If you’re like most people, you like it when everyone’s on the same page. No awkward moments. No arguments. No reason to doubt your decisions.
But life isn’t always that way, is it? Not everyone wants what you do, and their resistance can be exhausting. Whether they use guilt trips, intimidation or their simple refusal to listen to reason, the result is the same. It’s easier to give them what they want – or at least come up with something they’ll settle for.
Of course, there are times to compromise. That’s how people agree on things like where to go on vacation or which wine to have with dinner. But when you’re making decisions about how to live your own life, why compromise?
The answer to that question can be painful. Some people let others run the show because they doubt themselves. They feel anxious when others don’t agree with them; they’re afraid of screwing up.
Others collapse under the pressure. They can’t handle the guilt, the implied threats or the possibility of rejection. It’s just too hard
If this sound like you, you are not alone. And chances are you’re not happy, either.
You don’t need permission to do what’s right for you. Other people make decisions according to their values, their beliefs and their agendas. Even when they want what’s best for you, they can’t always know what that is. No one knows how you feel or what’s in your heart the way you do.
Start doing what you think is best and see what happens. You may make mistakes – but that’s OK. You’ll learn from them. And people may push back; take a deep breath and remind yourself that that’s OK, too.
Instead of accommodating others, learn to accommodate your highest values. Do what you think is right. In time, even the tough choices will start to feel good – because they’re yours. And before you know it, you’ll feel better than you have in years.