In this short video, I talk about what happens when we don’t question our emotions – and how knowing the truth can set us free.
How often have you agreed to something that really didn’t work for you… even though it made you feel better in the moment? When was the last time you did something just to keep the peace – or because someone wouldn’t take “no” for an answer?
We do these things and more because we believe our emotions. We believe that if we don’t fix the problem someone else created, we’re selfish or uncaring. We keep the peace because, at some level, we believe we can’t handle conflict. And we do things that make us uncomfortable or resentful because we believe we need something from others, whether that’s resources like money and connections or just their approval.
When something triggers enough emotional pain, you might do whatever it takes to make that pain go away. You think you can’t handle those emotions – or that it’s just easier (and therefore better) to go along.
But that’s not true. You can live your life in the way that’s best for you. Some people may not want you to, but you don’t need their approval. You may be so used to giving in that you’ve never considered facing their disapproval or rejection. If you did, you’d learn that you can handle it. And in time, you’d figure out that the opinion of someone who’s trying to manipulate you means absolutely nothing – even if that person raised you, married you, or came out of your womb.
But maybe it’s not about approval. Maybe you’re so used to thinking you need others that you’ve never tried to manage without them. If you did, you’d learn that you can handle more than you think. You can still ask for help when you need it – and if that doesn’t get you what you want, you’ll find a way to muddle through.
Relying on others may seem easier at the time, but there’s nothing easy about becoming too dependent.
Our emotions tell us all kinds of things, many of them true. But when they tell you that it’s selfish to consider your own wants and needs, that you can’t manage without someone, or that you can’t handle the consequences of doing what’s right for you, it’s time to question those beliefs. Because, if you let it, the truth will set you free.